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"How to Start Your Business Day On A High"
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"How to Start Your Business Day On A High"
- by Alison Clark
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Emotional Intelligence is now recognised as essential for
effective living and working. One aspect of this is being in
charge of our feelings rather than at the mercy of them.
- Do you ever 'get out of the wrong side of the bed'? - Do you
sometimes feel that 'nothing's going to go right today'? - Would
you like to be more in control of how you feel?
If you run your own business or work freelance, you'll know very
well how much depends on you. If you learn how to recognise your
emotional state, take responsibility for it and choose your
attitude for the day, you can turn around a day which didn't
seem promising at the start.
There are 4 steps to this:
1. Begin by connecting to how you are feeling right now.
Sometimes, our surface mood disguises a deeper emotion. We may
feel grumpy and out of sorts but if we take the time to sit
quietly or reflect as we walk the dog, it may be that we
discover we are still angry or disappointed about something that
happened yesterday. Identifying and naming the emotion is the
first vital step.
2. Recognise that the emotion is in you. We sometimes attribute
how we feel to the external circumstances be it the weather or
someone that annoys us: 'He 'makes' me feel irritated/nervous/
inadequate.' Separate out the circumstances from your reaction
and you will find that you have a choice about how to respond.
If you're not convinced, think of it this way. If you choose to
be cheerful, the rain may still be falling and the client
grumbling. The emotion is not in the rain or the client but in
you.
3. You are more than your mood. Moods and feelings come and go
but your core self remains. Try out the difference between
saying 'I am anxious' and 'I have some anxious feelings'. The
first identifies the entire self with the anxiety; the second
suggests that the anxiety, though present, is not the whole
story. I find that this prevents me being overwhelmed by the
feeling and affords a space to make a choice about how I will
handle it, which takes us to step 4.
4. How do I want to feel today? It is important to acknowledge
at this point that sad feelings may be entirely appropriate. Few
of us get through life without experiencing loss or difficulty.
In such cases, we may not be ready to 'cheer up' but we can
still make a choice about how we wish to feel: calm? accepting?
Maybe we need to express some angry or rebellious feelings
before we can move into what the day brings.
Let's assume that no major crisis has arisen. You can get clear
about the positive emotion you want to experience: motivated?
lighthearted? optimistic? hopeful? Ask yourself what positive
thoughts you can adopt and what actions you can take to promote
your desired state.
Start the day by encountering yourself (Good morning, how am I?)
in these 4 steps: Awareness, Ownership, Detachment and Choice.
Your business will reflect the positive person you are choosing
to be and when you meet other people, you'll be able to greet
them authentically: Good morning, how are you?
Inspired by Anthony de Mello: Awareness
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